Dealing with Bullies

Dealing with Bullies

Dear Confessional,

Being bullied can hurt. You feel miserable and lonely, and you don’t want to go to school. Whether the bully is a boy or a girl, and the behavior is verbal or physical, it is always wrong. 

My Story

I have been bullied many times, mostly because I am smaller than most of my classmates.  

One time a girl in my class kept teasing me that I was small, and when I responded with a simple phrase, “have a nice day,” she walked away without responding. The next day, she tried to tease me again and called me “shrimp.” I used the same statement again, and this time, when she stormed off, she never bothered me again. 

Another time at school, a girl started pushing me in line and called me “so small like a baby.” I simply responded by saying, “pick on someone your own size!” That’s when she started to pull my hair. “Knock it off,” I angrily said, and she left me alone after that.

A boy in my class kept comparing me to his little brother, telling me that he’s probably much taller, even though he’s a few years younger. I realized that he was trying to make me feel bad about my height. I actually agreed with him and said he may be right, but “it doesn’t matter anyway, because people come in all shapes, sizes, and colors… and that is what makes us beautiful.” He was speechless as he stared at me, and then walked away. The teachers nearby smiled, as they overheard my response and seemed proud. 

Why Bully?

Usually, bullies bother other kids for a bunch of reasons that usually don’t have anything to do with the person they’re bothering!

  • What if the bully is experiencing a frustrating or upsetting family issue?
  • What if the bully is so insecure on the inside that bothering someone else allows him/her to feel better?
  • What if the bully is actually being bullied by an older sibling or someone else at school, and is acting out to feel more in control?  

Regardless of the reason behind the bully’s behaviour, it’s never o.k., and sometimes, it’s hard to know what to do. 

Tips to Stop the Bully

  1. “Have a nice day!” After saying this phrase, simply walk away from that dark cloud. If a bully realizes that the effort won’t receive the reaction that he/she is looking for, it will likely fizzle out.
  2. Either way, tell your teacher immediately. Bullies need to learn that it’s not funny or acceptable to pick on others in any way. 
  3. Be honest! Responding with truth is another great way to stop a taunting bully.  
  4. Always alert your parents about the issue at school. Mom and dad were once kids too, and they may have some great ideas for responding to the bully or helping you resolve your problem. 
  5. If you and your parent are not satisfied, and the bully is determined to make you miserable, that’s when a meeting with the principal or headmaster needs to happen.

Don’t be scared to escalate your reaction with these steps. You deserve respect because each one of us is important and beautiful. Also, please make sure to help out another person who may be bullied and not know what to do. Sometimes we just need a helping hand or friend to lift us up when we’re feeling down.

Always remember, you are never alone!

Yours truly,

Isabella

P.S. Have you been bullied also? Please share your story with us in the comments section below (anonymous too) and how you handled it. If you’d like to write your own blog about any experience that you have learned from, please have your parent help you to fill out your story on the Contact page. My mom will review your post, polish it up with some editing, and your blog just may be featured in the SuperKids Chronicles section too. We would love to hear from you! 

 

 

Top Tips for Adding a New Pet to Your Family

Top Tips for Adding a New Pet to Your Family

Dear Confessional,

There aren’t many things that are better than getting a new pet. I know that feeling well when our family bought a Samoyed dog and three guinea pigs. If you are planning to add a new furry member to your family, or already have, read these top 10 tips to prepare your pet for a healthy and happy life.

Shopping List

No matter what animal you are getting, make sure to plan a proper shopping list, like the food, cage/tank, tools, treats, and other accessories.

Home Prep.

Do some research about your pet or ask the pet store expert about the specific materials you will need. Planning ahead will help your pet to live a long and happy life. The next step after buying all of the equipment is to find a safe and comfortable area inside/outside of your house.

Life Happens

Sometimes a new pet means good news and sometimes bad. When my sister and I picked out our guinea pigs, we had to leave them at the store for two weeks while we were away on holiday. I was so excited to pick them up after we returned. When we arrived back at the store, the owner told us that the litter must have been bad one because those guinea pigs had died. We were so sad, but in the end, we found three healthy and beautiful guinea pigs. I guess sometimes life happens, and sometimes it doesn’t.

Bringing Your Pet Home

Even though you may feel really happy and excited to spend lots of time with your new pet, it is normal for your pet to be scared and want some space. Remember, your pet is leaving the home it’s used to and won’t know what’s happening or know you well. Try to give your new pet time and space to adjust to your home and to you.

Home Sweet Home

While your house may be familiar to you, your new pet still sees you as a stranger and in an unfamiliar place. When we first brought our guinea pigs home, they spent a lot of time hiding before they felt comfortable. On the contrary, when we first brought our puppy home, she was very excited, sociable, and interested in everything. Just make sure to be patient with your new pet, or he/she may become really stressed and overwhelmed, which may affect his/her health too.

Responsibility Starts Now

From the very first day until the last, your pet will depend on you for everything. Make sure to make time in your daily routine for completing your pet responsibilities, like feeding, cleaning your pet and its living space, playtime, cuddle-time, etc.

Introducing Your Pet to Other Pets in the House

If you have other pets in the house, especially a larger one, you may want to take some time after bringing your pet home before introducing them. Whenever you decide is a good time, make sure to stay close by and watch how they relate to each other.

A Happy Family

Your pet is part of your family. Just as you would with a person, remember to always show respect, care, and lots of love to your new member.

I hope you enjoyed this blog and found it to be helpful!

** Fun Fact: In our family, we have one female Samoyed dog named Lady. My sister and I own 3 female guinea pigs. Mine are called Cookie Dough (nickname “Cookie”) and Marshmallow (“nickname “Marshie”), and my sister has Brownie.

Yours Truly,

Isabella

P.S. Do you have a personal topic that you feel other kids could relate? Send in your blogs with your name or anonymous for the chance to be featured on Superfly Superkids. We would love to hear from you! Topics could include: being the new kid in school, bullying, sibling rivalry, making friends, doctor’s appointments, trouble relating with parents, anxieties, etc. Please proofread and check your work before submitting. If your blog is selected to be published on this site and throughout social media, you will be contacted via email. Any blogs to be published will be subject to minor edits by my Superfly Supermom.

 

How to deal when food tastes icky and you’re too picky!

How to deal when food tastes icky and you’re too picky!

Dear Confessional,

I used to be fussy with food. In the past, I didn’t like many kinds of foods—especially vegetables—but I had to learn by trying them. My mom was sneaky by hiding the food I didn’t like into the food that I loved. Sometimes, she would even pretend that the food was something else or would call it by a different name so we would eat it. Then when we loved it, she would confess what the food actually was. She would sometimes offer a special activity reward or play word/math games at the table when she saw us having a hard time eating, to help us start eating faster.

My mom always talks to us about the importance of food in our body. Just like you wouldn’t put anything other than gasoline fuel in a car to make it work, we shouldn’t fill up our bodies with anything but the best nutrition for our fuel. From the time we were young and would ask for unhealthy junk food at the supermarket, my mom would have us read the ingredient label and check for numbers, like red #40. She explained that these numbers were food paint colors and to save the paint for paper, not our body.

We also learned that if an ingredient is really long and hard to pronounce, many times it’s another chemical that shouldn’t be in our body. Also, the brighter or darker color the peel of the fruit or vegetable, the better it is for your body. Even though we enjoy a “junky snack” from time to time, we try and eat healthy most of the time.

Later on in life, I became a lot less picky and was opened to trying new foods, like asparagus, tuna steak, cauliflower, broccoli, mushrooms, etc. Remember, you may not like the food the first, second, or third time—but later on you will. Just a bit of trying won’t hurt.

** Fun fact! If you really don’t like your food, and your family is waiting for you to finish or have a delicious dessert, try this cool trick—just hold your nose! Your sense of taste won’t work if you can’t smell the food. Test it out and see! Hold your nose, do a good job with your meal, and you won’t taste anything.

Remember, try something new every day!

 

Yours truly,

Isabella

 

P.S. Do you have a personal topic that you feel other kids could relate? Send in your blogs with your name or anonymous for the chance to be featured on Superfly Superkids. We would love to hear from you! Topics could include: being the new kid in school, bullying, sibling rivalry, making friends, doctor’s appointments, trouble relating with parents, anxieties, etc. Please proofread and check your work before submitting. If your blog is selected to be published on this site and throughout social media, you will be contacted via email. Any blogs to be published will be subject to minor edits by my Superfly Supermom.